Unlike women who when confused, deranged, generally bothered or just their usual finicky self who would blog or call the phone three to just yap about their issues, men have this annoying tendency to hibernate.
Had I not been used to men acting like this and for a number of times made the unforgivable offense of not letting them be, I would actually ask the person I am having a relationship with with the offensive question of “Are you ok?”
In fairness to the ex he has taught me well. That men when they have issues should just be ignored. You need not even have to make them feel that you are there for them least they accused you of pressuring them. Just let them be.
As much as I am well aware that the “ignore them” formula works perfectly, I am actually pissed.
I always wonder why they could not just talk about it. I actually know how to listen. But then again men are wired differently than women.
Always keeping things to themselves sometimes I wonder why they do not explode.
What is there to share though when most of their problems are personal and it does not concern you or the relationship.
So let them be.
